Minggu, 02 Februari 2014

Understanding And Recognizing Domestic Abuse

By Jayne Rutledge


Domestic abuse or spousal violence is the act of one partner forcefully trying to subdue or dominate the other partner by means of fear. Now the dominating party may use of violence, threats, blackmail, or any other means in order to control the subdued partner. Of course if this type of act is to be stopped, it is always important to understand and recognize it first.

The thing about spousal violence is that it may happen to anyone regardless of age, sex, and race. Many people believe that it is only the men who would do this to their wives but what many do not know is that women are also known to do these shameless acts to their husbands but in a different form. This means that abusive behavior sees no discrimination at all.

One thing to take note of is that one does not become an abusive person just right after one day. In fact, the abusive behavior would usually come out just a few years or even months after marriage in small forms of insults or belittling comments. Of course if this may actually further escalate to more hurtful words that may actually humiliate the spouse.

Of course the hurtful words and belittling acts may lead up to outward violence such as hitting and slapping. Now usually, the violence would start out light like slaps to the face or to the arm. However, if it is left unattended, the dominating partner may actually start hitting the subdued spouse really hard.

Of course there is something that is definitely very uncalled for which is known as sexual abuse. Now of course it is the men who are more likely to do this instead of the women. This is a form of rape wherein the man would actually force his spouse to have sex with him in a way that could actually hurt her or injure her.

Of course if one is a victim of this type of act, then the most obvious sign would be fear and timidness when around the dominating spouse. One who is a victim of this act will usually try to watch his or her actions when he or she is with the spouse. It is like he or she is always nervous and is extremely careful with his or her every move.

One of the main causes of this kind of behavior would actually be insecurity. Because the dominating partner does not feel like he actually amounts to anything, then he would rather just hurt his spouse in order to push himself up. In a way, that would actually serve as an ego booster for his insecurity as the dominating partner will finally feel like he or she is in control of something.

Now the reason why domestic abuse is very dangerous to anyone is simply because it can cause long term effects emotionally. It can make a person lose confidence in himself or herself and may actually affect their personality in general. It is for this main reason that this sort of activity has to stop because no one deserves such treatment.




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